There are two obvious possibilities to why this is:
He's a typical womanizer, think Charlie Sheen's younger brother, who is able to lie to me better than anyone else, acts like a perfect gentleman when I'm around, even though I've told him he has little to no chance, is still trying...but not really pulling out any lines. Officially, he's really just a huge jerk who probably should be slapped because he's pretending to be nice and is considering me a challenge, not a real person.
He's actually a genuinely nice person who went a little nuts for awhile, developed a bad reputation and wound up hurt a little in the process. While possibility two might be a little bit hard to believe, since I'm pretty much 'Possibility Two' as well, I can believe it. Don't get me wrong, I'm not a stupid girl. Listen to what other people say but always judge for yourself.
In all honesty, I really don't believe it's the first one...and I'm kind of glad I gave him the chance because he's a pretty awesome friend.
Luckily, Grand Manan hasn't rubbed off on me so much that I just constantly listen to the rumours and thankfully, I've given up trying to please other people just to make them stay friends with me. Grand Manan has a tendency to make or break reputations. I understand people make their own decisions but the problem is that youthful stupidity often fades and yet, people are still left with a reputation that precedes them.
I also had to decide whether or not I was going to be friends with this person because it could/would irritate someone who should be close to me. I attempted to care for about a week but honestly, I'm not doing anything wrong and I think I'm making the right decision to not give up a friendship 'just in case' I hurt someone. Yes, it concerns me but everyone deserves a second chance and the opportunity to be given a fair chance. Thankfully, I'm glad I was called out on judging someone because I firmly believe he's possibility two.