Thursday, March 7, 2013

I don't deal with whiners

Whining is something that I can't handle.  If you're upset with something, fix it.  Do something about it.  Whining seems like a cop-out - it's a way to be lazy and not actually deal with the issue.  Yes, I understand being overwhelmed, annoyed, angry etc - but whining is just complaining.  Thought: stop being part of the problem and help fix it.

I recently dated a guy whose major flaw was whining.  He was in debt - do something about it, don't just complain or worse, ignore the problem and then complain when it got really bad.  He was depressed - how about eating healthy? setting a schedule for yourself? exercise? or if necessary, go to the doctor and get some anti-depressants (I will always advocate these as a last resort option but still an option if necessary).  He hated his job - find another one. 

It was constant and it became really boring.  It was the sort of stagnant relationship that I am completely against.  It wasted my time, sucked the energy out of me and left us watching a lot of movies.  No thanks.

Whining seems to correlate with a lack of ambition which is also frustrating.  I'm working and going to school and writing a freakin' amazing blog so I'm a huge believer in ambition.  I have a huge problem with people who live in a pipe dream.  Yes, some dreams are unachievable - I want a pet dragon...probably not going to happen.  That being said, I also want to get to Guatemala - so I'm putting money away.  I want to finish school so I study.  I want to get in shape so I'm eating healthy and exercising...well, I'm eating healthy - I'm busy!   I don't want to date a guy exactly like me - but I like people who have plans, determination, desire and productivity!  Excuses, complaints, and whining just doesn't cut it for me. 

So I'm single again and actually LOVING it! I'm free to do what I want, I'm focusing more on myself and loving my life! I'm not stressing over other people's issues and I'm happy about that.  Maybe the lesson in this blog is date someone similar to yourself and dump them if you find your soul being sucked out through your nose.  A new relationship shouldn't be should be the really fun time - give it at least four months before they start complaining and showing major character flaws (or issues).  Maybe I should just stay single.